This is what truly blows my mind. There are attorney's that tell our DV victims that they don't take DV cases, because they don't understand why the victims keep going back. There was one particularly egregious case in which an attorney told a sexual assault victim that her case was being declined, because, "Sometimes sex hurts. That doesn't mean you were raped." One of the foremost detectives in our law enforcement agency speaks incredibly articulately about the dynamics present in DV situations, and especially about how traditional gender roles and beliefs in them are many times present in such situations, and then in the same breath, speaks about how he is a "good Christian," who believes that he is the head of his wife. How do these people work so close to such violence, and not see how they enable, contribute, and at the very least, how they do nothing to help stop it?
I have moments when I am so heartbroken. Listening to the stories our clients tell us. Seeing their shame and humiliation on top of their feelings of betrayal and visceral pain, shame and humiliation given them, not by their abusers or attackers, but by the very people in the system who claim to work to help them.
I know change is slow, but sometimes it's so painfully slow that it knocks the wind out of my chest.